I am just about at wit's end with my husband, his diverticulitis, and constant random complaints of "stomach pain." Ever since he had a very mainstream, pro-surgery gastro tell him to just go ahead and have part of his colon removed, he is complaining more and more. That doctor had no respect for diet and even said he would rather have his own colon removed that give up steaks. Obviously, his advice is not something to act on without getting several other opinions.
I really feel like my husband is attention seeking and that in his mind, having surgery will get him more attention. Well, I won't stand for it. Him having surgery will just be further burden on me. I'm the one who will have to deal with a whiny complainy patient who won't take his medicines and won't exercise. I am the one who will have to make sure he is eating only what the surgeon says he can have and fight with him when he tries to eat his favorites. I am the one that will be stuck with the medical bills. I'm not having it
Having part of your colon removed just so you can eat whatever you want is insane. Good grief. How much have I sacrificed because of endo and IF? Can he not make some small sacrifices for his own health and life? I have taken us to a naturopath who has done food sensitivity testing and recommended various supplements for us. I have dutifully ordered everything she suggested and put it all in little pill boxes so that it should be easy for him. I am constantly finding that when I go to take my supplements, I find that he skipped his. It is so damn frustrating! And, I happened to get up this morning before he left for work just so I could physically bring his meds to him and watch him take them. He has one supplement that is a powder that is mixed with water. I brought that to him with his pills, and he tried to tell me the powder stuff gives him a "stomach ache." I was about to go through the roof. But, I calmly as I could explained to him that nothing in there could cause him a "stomach ache" and that everything in it is designed to sooth his intestinal issues. So, he takes it, and tells me to take note of the fact that he took it, as if he is going to have himself a little "stomach ache" later today and "show me" that he can't take the stuff. So, I noted to him to take note that he also had a cup of coffee this morning, and coffee is a food that he is sensitive to. So, there.
Y'all. I am so tired of all this that I sometimes think of just leaving. I even put together a healthy breakfast for him. A banana and a slice of double fiber bread with natural PB and simply fruit jam with added fiber. He takes the freaking toast and leaves the banana. Aaargh!!!!! Like he can't possibly eat the banana because he'll be so full from the toast. Whatever. He probably is going to eat donuts at work.
I even bought him soy milk because he is not supposed to have dairy (severe reaction to whey). Has he tried it? Nope! I have even tried it and it tasted good and I reported that to him, but he still stubbornly refuses to try it. I was going to put it in his coffee this morning, but he came into the kitchen before I could do so. Dang it!
I am tired of having to mother him, but the alternative is let him do whatever he wants and ultimately he goes in for a major surgery to remove part of his colon. And who pays for that, both emotionally, physically, and financially? Me! He will be even worse to deal with after having surgery. This is a man who blows every little ache and pain out of proportion. Can you imagine what he would be like after surgery?
So, any advice? I'm tired of this. And, this is a time when I should be happily preparing for baby and taking care of myself and the baby.